Ruby Dee: "How to ride the rough waves in a relation long enough for the waters to get calm? When does it sink in that overcoming difficult times gets easier with practice? How do you drag some of the good feelings, good times vibrations into the stormy places? To love someone long and deep is a "consummation devoutly to be wished"!... It is day by day, one step at a time. It may not mean two bathrooms, but just some space, some privacy, some area to be alone. ...Unlike the wedding event, that takes place in a day, marriage is a long process that goes on at some level every day for the rest of your life....We have to learn how to live together... I thought I loved you, Ossie, when we got married, but as I see now, I was only in the kindergarten of the proposition. To arrive at love is like working on a double doctorate in the subject of Life." Source: With Ossie and Ruby: In This Life Together, pages 430-431
My eyes started to well up with tears, but I got myself together. The part that hurts the most about my breakup and the part that I fight with everyday is this small epiphany...
I hoped that it would be you, but I knew in my heart that it couldn't...
Love is beautiful. We hope it is. We pray it is. And we fall in love with it. The idea of it. The smell, taste, touch of it. And often in its absence, we look for it intensely. In every encounter. In places where we "should" know that love cannot reside. When we try to choose who to love, we get disappointed because...I am starting to think...at the end of the day, its not our choice to make. Love, my dear, chooses us. So get yourself ready...
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